When you think of the term “dry humping,” you might recall teenage years filled with insatiable sexual desires without any real outlet. You might recall moments when you and your high school partner engaged in dry humping when your parents weren’t around. Since then, you may have abandoned the practice of dry humping as something only suitable for teenagers or repressed individuals. However, dry humping isn’t a juvenile activity, and its true pleasures aren’t appreciated enough by adults.
If you’re dry humping solo, you may grind up against cushions, your bed, or other soft objects.
Dry humping is the sexual act of humping without penetration. If you’re dry humping with a partner, this may involve rubbing up against their legs, thighs, arms, or other parts of the body, with or without clothes. If you’re dry humping solo, you may grind up against cushions, your bed, or other soft objects. Dry humping is completely safe because there’s no fluid exchange or skin-to-skin contact, so there’s no risk of STIs or pregnancy.
Experimentation is an essential component of your sexual life. The only way to discover what you truly love in bed is to experiment with different forms of sex, such as slow sex, tantric sex, edging, solo sex with vibrators, and, yes, dry humping. Whether you’re doing it with yourself or with a partner, the act of dry humping can help you learn a lot about yourself. It can also be incredibly erotic, and it can also provide powerful and intensely pleasurable orgasms.
Below, we provide useful and essential tips for dry humping.
What you wear matters, a lot
Dry humping is generally performed when you’re dressed up. Your choice of clothing depends on you and your partner’s preferences, but you should still follow some guidelines. If you prefer intense stimulation, you can wear thick bottoms and jeans because they create more friction and heat, leading to more stimulation. If your clothing has seams, you can grind against them to increase the pleasure. However, if you’re dry humping your partner, you should ideally avoid jeans because the zipper can scratch their skin.
Whatever you wear, you must be comfortable — that’s the most important thing.
You can also go for loose-fitting, thin fabrics that shift easily, reducing the barrier to your genitals. Thin, silky materials are easier to slide against your skin, and the sensation of silk and satin can further improve your experience. Silky outfits can also rub and flow against your erogenous zones, thus triggering additional points of pleasure. You can also tuck the fabric of your underwear between your labia to stimulate your clitoris more powerfully. Whatever you wear, you must be comfortable — that’s the most important thing.
Foreplay is your friend, don’t ignore it
Dry humping can be a form of foreplay, or it can be the entire sexual experience — it’s your call. Whatever the case might be, you should also incorporate other forms of touch and sexual play into your session — versatility and foreplay can boost your experience. If you’re dry humping solo, you can run your hands across your body to explore your erogenous zones or play with sex toys and vibrators. If you’re dry humping with your partner, you can lick each other on the neck, toes, ears, and other body parts.
Switch up your positions
The best way to improve your sexual experience is to experiment — and keep experimenting. You won’t know what you like until you try numerous styles and techniques, so you must keep switching up your positions. Embrace the trial-and-error approach to dry humping by going through different positions, such as the missionary, doggy, cowboy, scissoring, split-leg missionary, and others. Different positions work for different people at different times, so get creative!
When it doubt, lube it up
Sex is always better with lubrication — the more, the merrier. Whether you’re male or female, lubricants are your friends. You might be concerned about getting lube on your clothes, but that’s why you should wear clothes that you’re willing to launder immediately after. You can add some lubricant against your labia or thighs or against your penis and testicles. This will maximize the stimulation and improve your sexual experience, helping you achieve more powerful orgasms.
Don’t forget the sex toys
You have a lot of sex toys to choose from — you can use clitoral suction vibrators, vaginal vibrations, clitoral vibrators like Evii, dildos, cock rings, fleshlights, and other types of toys. Clitoral suction vibrators are particularly suitable for dry humping because they can help you orgasm without penetration, which is the point of dry humping. Suction vibrators deliver pulses of sonic energy to stimulate your clitoris, but you can also run them on your nipples and other erogenous zones for intense pleasure.
Dry humping can also spread STIs
Dry humping is generally safer than regular, unprotected sex because there’s no penetration, either anal, oral, or vaginal. As such, there’s no risk of pregnancy, but you still have a small risk of STIs because of skin-to-skin contact and the exchange of bodily fluids. Even if you’re clothes, vaginal lubrication or pre-cum can seep through the fabric of your clothes, thus leading to the transmission of STIs. The risk is minimal, but it still exists.
Enthusiastic, verbal consent, always
You must seek consent at every stage of your dry humping session with a partner. Even if dry humping doesn’t involve penetration and you’re fully clothed, you still need your partner’s enthusiastic verbal consent to proceed with your play. Furthermore, you also need to seek your partner’s consent whenever you introduce a new activity into your play, whether that’s using a finger, penis, dildo, penetration, oral, or anything else. The consent for dry humping doesn’t automatically pass onto all other sexual activities.
Dry humping can be a low-risk, exciting addition to your regular sexual activities. It can also be a great precursor or foreplay to penetrative sex. We’ve offered several tips to improve your dry humping experience, but remember this: play around, get creative, and do whatever feels comfortable and natural to you.
